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Tuesday, March 27, 2007

Hello??

I have realized over the last few months how lonely I am. Which seems silly since I have 3 kids and wonderful husband and family all around me. But I am. And, much unlike my character, I have decided to do something about it. I have a few close friends that I spend time with. But other than that, I am pretty lonely during the day.

On a few occasions I have ventured to the park looking for other moms and even walked over to strike up a conversation. Normally, this is my worst nightmare. And to be honest, it really isn't "a walk in the park" for me...but something I have to FORCE myself to do. So far, no luck making any friends...

I've tried making plans with old friends too, but busy schedules always get in the way. I guess the loneliness of being a stay at home mom didn't really hit me until recently. And it is especially prevalent when Dan is away. I spend all my time lurking around my parents' house. So by the time Dan does get home they are exhausted and happy to see him. LOL.

Today I went to my Weight Watchers meeting instead of my usual Monday. And there was actually some young moms there with their kids. I think I am going to switch to Wednesdays now so maybe I can meet some people. (BTW - I am down 8.6 lb!!)

Why is making friends as an adult SO much harder than when you were kids? Why was it so easy back then to walk up to a stranger and say, Wanna be my friend? If you do that to some random woman at the park she'd smile timidly and quickly walk away.

So I am putting myself out there. Which I am finding incredibly painful. But I am determined to find some new friends to spend time with. If Dan is going to stay in the Navy, I am just gonna have to learn to make new friends. So here goes...

10 comments:

Catch said...

you definately need some " girl time"...Im 58 and I always love "girl time"...no rocking chair and ball of yarn for me....give me my friends and a nice big margarita....you gotta meet some gals Hon.

Dr.John said...

Betty has felt lonely even though I am home all the time ( or perhaps because I am home all the time. ) She joined a circle at the church and is making new friends. Weight Watchers sounds like a real possiblity.

Ginny said...

Try putting Red in a dance class or on a soccer team. Then you can meet other parents the same age. I have met alot of friends that way.

Gabrielle Eden said...

Getting closer to God can fill loneliness....

Pendullum said...

I would be your friend any time of the day!!!

Oh, The Joys said...

(((you)))

Thinking of you.

kelly said...

Wow, that's tough. To be honest, I don't have a lot of friends with kids. I have a hard time chatting with other mom's too - especially (like at my son's school) when they all seem to know each other really well, I can't just join in on their conversation. I tend to feel like the outcast when I do show up at the school but most of the time, they're pretty nice and quite welcoming.
Definitely switch to the Wednesday. And once the kids are in school, you'll have no trouble!

tAnYeTTa said...

ditto! i think alot of my issues have to do with the fact that i'm very picky and very protective of my space. i cannot stand ppl to waste or attempt to waste my time with idle chatter. that's prolly why i have a limited amount of friends. LOL

hope you find some friends real soon. it sucks to be lonely. i feel you on that one!

Mike, Nicki, and Josh said...

You have tons of computer friends but I am totally familiar with that feeling of loneliness. I had it a lot in San Diego. You've got great opportunities just having Dan in the Navy. See if there are any Navy groups that get together in your neighborhood. They may have listings online check MWR and FFSC. It seems as though many times in military communties, spouses really join together for things. Even if only just to talk about the hardships they are facing while their spouse is away. Your local Church may have a ladies bible study night? Many times offering free child care. :) I also like the other suggestion of getting red involved in a sport or maybe even the girlscouts? (She'd be a daisy....I started in kindergarten I think) She should be ready for that soon. I'm totally excited to get Josh in the boyscouts in a couple years!(He'd be a tiger cub:) Hang in there you've got a great personality and the right opportunity will present itself!

Caro said...

I'm lonely too but I'm also kind of an introvert.

What a great combo, huh?