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Friday, February 02, 2007

Who Wears the Money Pants?

I am truly a 1950's wife at heart. (Except that I don't vacuum in pearls...or at all for that matter). I stay home, I make dinner (sometimes it isn't even a frozen dinner), I tidy the house (Yes, Dan I DO, I can hear you snickering...) and I haven't got a CLUE about our finances. I don't know how much money we make each month (even though it is even a matter of public record), I don't know where our investments are, I don't know how much our mortgage payment is. I DO know how to use a credit card and practice often.

I hide every month when Dan clicks open the "BUDGET" file on the computer, sneaking around the house like a ninja trying to avoid the "We're operating in the RED" talk. It makes me feel like a child outside the Principal's office. I am a spender....Dan is a saver. I am grateful for this and am please that I landed me a man that knows how to provide for me and my blissfully clueless ways.


Don't get me wrong. Dan doesn't try to keep this from me. He tries...actively...to get me involved and explain things to me. I glaze over and block it all out (not always intentionally) and start daydreaming about shopping at Nordstroms. I'll snap back to reality eventually and see Dan staring at me sternly and I bat my eyes and rub my hand up his thigh....that usually does the trick.


The other night hubby mentioned to me that he knows SO many different guys whose wives run the financial show. These women, whether career ladies or SAHM's like me, are wearing the pants and controlling the finances. Hey, if that works for you, MORE power to ya. I am happy settling into a more traditional role of ignorance. (And despite what my MIL LOVES to tell me... it IS, in fact, MY money too and I DO believe that I earn it as equally as my husband). I just don't really care to know what happens behind the scenes. It is so much less stressful.


Everyone has their own gifts and talents. Mine is not money. I am the official toilet scrubber, butt wiper, thigh rubber, and underwear folder of the family. I'm happy letting hubby wear the pants...I like dresses better anyway. I've got great legs.

11 comments:

Oh, The Joys said...

WOW! I love this wonderwoman stuff!

And - I get the "in the red" talk too. I hate that!

Dr.John said...

I love the new look. for years I ran the finances. i paid the bills. I knew what we had and didn't have. Then I ended up in a comma and Betty took over and she has done a fantastic job.

Carolyn said...

Ah, I get it now.

When the inteminable lecture starts, I slide my hand up his thigh.

Dianne said...

Travis lives in that blissful state that you are in too!! I am in charge of everything. Sometimes it is kindof funny, because he is the sole breadwinner in our family and when we go to get financing for something they always ask Travis what he makes, what the credit cards are at, etc....and then I answer. It suprises the bank people quite a bit that he has no idea about anything!!! Sometimes I think I would like to not know, but it would just drive me nuts, I like the control. At least he scrubs the toilets.......

Mike, Nicki, and Josh said...

I do the whole glazing over thing too but usually when Mike starts getting really excited over some savings account or another account and mentions things like compounded interest. For him being able to just make money without doing anything but packing it away is a thrill. We tried switching roles but he just gets to darn excited about this stuff. It's really a hobby for him.

Ginny said...

I have that dreaded job. I think I dread it because I'm not that good at it. My husband is clueless and I long for that. I'm hoping to enlist his help soon. Working together would make it much easier!

Pendullum said...

I hate the redtalk...
And this is how pathetic I amas a blogger... I am lying in bed... and I realize with my last comment in my last entry I said' glycerin' what was I thinking... I meant LANOLINE pharmaceutical quality... I wake up in a start and realize I had to come back to my favourite WonderWoman and rectify my comment from last time...

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Mike, Nicki, and Josh said...

As Nicki mentioned, doing the bills is a hobby of mine. But I am a saver like Dan. When Nicki asks me to give her a "wish list" for gifts, I tell her that my wish is for nothing, so that we can put the extra money into savings. But I also like when Nicki works with me on the finances because then she can see where our money goes and why sometimes I do have to have the "going into the red" conversation.

-Mike

Miss Kelly said...

Wow - I wish I could have that. But, because of past relationship troubles being about money, there is no way anyone will ever have total control over my money ever again. Adam pays the bills and I pay the rent and my car payments and my own crap but it's all basically done together.

Miss Kelly said...

Wow - I wish I could have that. But, because of past relationship troubles being about money, there is no way anyone will ever have total control over my money ever again. Adam pays the bills and I pay the rent and my car payments and my own crap but it's all basically done together.