I've been contemplating lately about the relationship between siblings. It is fascinating watching my kids go from screaming, hitting, fighting one another to snuggling up on the couch and so politely sharing popcorn in a matter of minutes. I will see Savannah shove Vincent out of her room saying, "You can't play in here" to shoving a big kid on the playground saying "Leave my brother alone!". What is it about the brother/sister relationship that makes it so volatile?
My brothers and I are pretty close. We love each other and actually want to spend time with one another. Of course when we were kids we all fought. I guess you do fight most heatedly with the ones you love the most. But here we are, adults and still have a very strong bond with one another. How do you generate that?
We may not always agree, we may be very different people, but when push comes to shove I KNOW my brothers are there. We have a family motto when one of us is hurting. "Circle the wagons" It means that the rest of the family will gather around and protect the one that is hurt. When my nephew, Alex was in the hospital with life threatening jaundice, we all marched down to the hospital with blankets and pillows and surrounded Robby and Stacy and slept there until we knew the baby was fine. Circle the wagons.
It seems like so many people I know don't get along with or appreciate their siblings. What causes that? I want to raise my kids to always love each other and respect each other and to actually be friends.
I want Savannah to be 30 years old and still telling people "Don't mess with my brother."
So I'll pose some questions. Do you get along with your siblings? Do you spend time with them? If not, why? Sometimes it may be too deep of a reason to share and I can understand that. My sister in law Tiffany had a terrible brother growing up and it is good that she doesn't have a relationship with him. So we just count her as one of ours.
Anyway, this tempermental relationship of siblings is fascinating to me and I'd like to know how it all worked out for all of you. Good or bad, what do you think contributed to the relationship you have with your brothers or sisters?
4 months ago