Today I went and visited my mother in law. The "other" one. She and I get along pretty well. They are pretty hard on the older 2 kids. They expect them to visit for an hour or two and not move from the couch or a little patch on the floor. Stinky is TWO. There is no way he is gonna do that. So he was told "No" alot this morning. But he took it like a champ.
I am pretty sure that MIL smacked his hand while I wasn't looking. He came running in to me saying, "Owie...hand..." Then he scowled and pointed at MIL "Hit me...mean to me!" He said it over and over. I didn't see it happen, so I didn't say anything. Maybe I should have... She did see me swat his had after he touched the same thing over and over again after I told him no. Maybe she thought it was ok. My policy is NOBODY disciplines my kids without my permission. And they certainly don't have it. It wasn't a spanking...just a tap I am sure. But still... I feel like I did the wrong thing for not saying anything. But then...oh I could go round and round...
I did get done what I wanted to get done though. And that was put a plug in for birthday gifts for Red, Stinky and Dan. They rarely get them anything. Dan usually gets $100 in cash. Nothing for the kids. So I figured if I went over there with some "suggestions" we might see something this year. We asked for them to renew our Disney annual passes. We'll see if that happens. Dan HATES asking them for things. But I figure, Dan and the kids deserve it. They are fairly well off and can completely afford something for them. I am not trying to be greedy, but they are their GRANDPARENTS. They can acknowledge their birthdays, right?
My parents have so much less than them and really stretch to dote on my kids. I guess not everybody can be like that.
I enjoyed being the center of my grandparents' universe. I want that for my kids too.
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